Books
In anyone's education of BDSM I think it's important
to source out as much experience and knowledge
as possible such as: mentorship, discussion, chat,
article writing, article reading, movie watching,
listening to complex music, practicing the art
of BDSM, participation in a local scene, seminars
and book reading.
The following books have been useful in improving
my skills and knowledge about BDSM. I hope you
can find something for your library or as a gift
for someone else's.
By purchasing books through this site, you help
support and keep this site available. All purchases
are through amazon.com . There are five
sections to choose from:
- THEORETICAL/PRACTICAL
Beginner - is a good starting
ground to gain theory and it will also lend
practical advice
- PRACTICAL Intermediate
to Advanced - is a good place
to find assistance in specialized areas such
as spanking & flogging or making your own
SM tools
- INTELLECTUAL is
a place to shop when you want something a little
different and you are ready to expand your thoughts
- FICTION all about fiction.
Sometimes realistic, sometimes fantasy.
- BOYS WHO WANT TO BE GIRLS
for those male bodies that wish to be feminized,
understand and/or express their feminine side.
Descriptions are listed under each book
icon &/or hyperlink.
¦¦THEORETICAL/PRACTICAL
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Jay
Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook
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 Art
of Sensual Female Dominance : A Guide for Women
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 Screw
the Roses, Send Me the Thorns :the romance and
sexual sorcery of sadomasochism
-
 The
Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite possibilities
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 The
Bottoming Book : How to Get Terrible...
-
 The
Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
- Leathersex
: A Guide for the Curious...
- Consensual
Sadomasochism : How to Talk...
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¦¦PRACTICAL
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 Sex
Toy Tricks : More Than 125 Ways to...
-
 Tricks
2 : Another 125 Ways to Make Good...
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 Sex
Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man
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 Sex
Tips from a Dominatrix
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target="_blank"Safe, Sane, Consensual and Fun
- Kinkycrafts
: 99 Do-It-Yourself S/m Toys
- The
Compleat Spanker
- The
Klutz Book of Knots : How to Tie the...
- Miss
Abernathy's Concise Slave Training...
- Training
With Miss Abernathy : A workbook for erotic
slaves and their owners
- The
Sexually Dominant Woman : A Workbook...
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¦¦INTELLECTUAL
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 Different
Loving : The World of Sexual...
- Erotic
Power : An Exploration of dominance and submission
- Bitch
Goddess : The Spiritual Path of...
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FICTION ¦¦
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 Story
of O
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 Venus
in Furs, a Novel : Letters of...
Emmanuelle,
Bianca and Venus in Furs OR
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 Memoirs
of a Geisha
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¦¦ Boys
Who Want to be Girls ¦¦
 Miss
Vera's Finishing School for Boys Who Want to be
Girls
 S/He
: Changing Sex and Changing Clothes (Dress, Body
& Culture) (not purchased yet)
The
Bliss of Becoming One! : Integrating 'Feminine'
Feelings into the Male Psyche Mainstreaming the
Gender Community (not purchased yet)
Coping
With Crossdressing
Art
and Illusion: A Guide to Crossdressing, Vol. 1,
Fashion & Style
Art
and Illusion: A Guide to Crossdressing, Vol. 2,
Fashion & Style
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Descriptions
All synopsis -indicated by "quotes "- are from the
back of the book cover. Book purchases link to Amazon.com
unless otherwise noted.
Click on the link if you wish to buy the book!
Art
of Sensual Female Dominance : A Guide for Women
Varrin, Claudia. Carol Publishing Group, 1998.
ISBN:1-55972-47-1. . "Many [players] feel that,
with planning and the love of a caring partner,
D&S can be a safe way to heal, change, and
grow. Although each partner is strong enough to
stand alone, each needs the other for the acceptance
all humans crave, for validation, for someone
to trust with the erotic fantasies in their secret
heart. As you play at D&S, never forget that
you are holding your partner's trust and fantasies
in your hand, and extend around him the protective
shield he needs at this time. Enjoy your time
at the 'top,' but remember the one who put you
there."
Screw
the Roses, Send Me the Thorns :the romance and
sexual sorcery of sadomasochism Miller, Philip
& Devon, Molly. Mystic Rose Books, 1995. ISBN:
0-9645960-0-8. "will tell you all about sadomasochism.
We made it light-hearted and fun to read because
SM is fun to do. That's why we do it. But fun
is only SM's overture; for those who grasp its
message, SM is sexual magic. The right blend of
trust, fantasy, and sexuality creates an intensely
erotic and deeply intimate stew. We take away
our lovers' freedom and lead them to profound
liberty. We peer into the dark together, transforming
it to light. In these pages you will find clear
explanations for the curious, and solid advice,
safety measures and steamy suggestions for the
adventurous. Also included are: over 255 photographs
and illustrations; bondage, flogging, and bullwhip
tutorials; designs for making your own SM equipment;
an extensive, 15 page glossary; over 900 entries
of SM clothing and equipment vendors, publications,
computer BBSs, and organizations"
Safe,
Sane, Consensual and Fun Warren, John. Diversified
Services, 1995. ISBN: 1-886073-08-2. "Through
15 stories, John Warren guides the reader through
realistic scenes of loving couples indulging their
secret fantasies, fantasies that you may share.
Using the format of erotic fiction, he shows how
two lovers can unlock the hidden passions that
lie within us all. No sexual athletics, complex
and expensive equipment or other participants,
just two people finding pleasure down a less traveled
erotic path.
Erotic
Power : An Exploration of dominance and submission
Scott, Gini Graham, Ph.D. Citadel Press, 1992.
ISBN: 0-8065-0968-6. This book is from a sociological
viewpoint. "Scott explores the areas of sadomasochism
and bondage and discipline as both a witness and
a practitioner. In Erotic Power, she interviews
mistresses, their subjects, and various group
participants in D&S. Her research covers *
Her personal experiences as a "mistress in training"
* A survey of the top clubs * References and resources
for those who desire to know more"
Kinkycrafts
: 99 Do-It-Yourself S/m ToysLady Green with
Easton, Jaymes.Greenery Press, 1995. ISBN: 0-9739763-7-0.
"Floggers and restraints, bondage equipment and
blindfolds, erotic torture implements and sensuous
delights -- all designed for easy, inexpensive
construction by the home handyperson! Everything
from five-minute inspirations through multi-day
labors of love, contributed by creatively kinky
folk from around the world. Don't spend another
dime on expensive toys until you've checked out
these terrific ideas!"
The
Bottoming Book : How to Get Terrible... Easton,
Dossie & Liszt, Catherine A. by Greenery Press,
1997. ISBN: 0-890159-01-8 A book for bottoms!!
This book is especially good for the novice bottom
or the top who wants to understand the bottom
more fully.
Story
of OReage, Pauline. Ballantine Books, January
1992. ISBN: 0-345-30111-0 "In brief, Story of
O relates the progressive willful debasement of
a young and beautiful Parisian fashion photographer,
O, who wants nothing more than to be a slave to
her lover, Rene. The test is severe - sexual in
method, psychological in substance.... The artistic
interest here has precisely to do with the use
not only of erotic materials but also erotic methods,
the deliberate stimulation of the reader as a
part of and means to a total, authentic literary
experience." Elliot Fremont-Smith -- The New York
Times
Miss
Abernathy's Concise Slave Training ManualAbernathy,
Christina. Greenery Press, 1996. ISBN: 0-9639763-9-7.
This teaches you how to train your slave. Some
chapter headings include: Written training assignments;
Voice commands and Postures; Tools and Accouterments
for Training; What to look for in a submissive;
and Types of arrangements
Training
With Miss Abernathy : A workbook for erotic slaves
and their owners Abernathy, Christina. Greenery
Press, 1998. ISBN. 1-890-159-07-7. "Fifty transformative
lessons for the erotic slave... The fundamentals
of everything from providing sexual pleasure to
sorting laundry to planning a world wide tour
with Master or Mistress. An invaluable reference
guide for slave and owner alike!"
The
Klutz Book of Knots : How to Tie the World's 24
Most Useful Hitches, Ties, Wraps, and KnotsCassidy,
John. Klutz, 1985. ISBN: 0-932592-10-4 "When it
comes to knot-tying, are you missing the boat?
Don't just read this book... You are holding in
your hands a fully illustrated step-by-step guide
to the tying of the world's 24 most useful knots.....
The Klutz Book of Knots is more than just a written
guide. It's also a tool, ment to be used as well
as read. Each of the board pages is specially
die-cut so that the knots can be practiced directly
next to their illustrations. It is, in short,
a book you can really get wrapped up in"
The
Compleat SpankerGreen, Lady. Greenery Press.
1996 ISBN 0-8901-59-00-X. For the person who wants
to learn more about spanking. Some chapter headings
include: Why do we like spanking; Warm up; Afterwards;
Tips, Tricks & Fun things to try; and Combining
Bondage with Spanking.
The
Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite possibilitiesLiszt,
Catherine A. & Easton, Dossie. Greenery Press.
1997 ISBN 0-890159-01-8. "At last... a comprehensive,
no-holds-barred guide for anyone who dreams of
having all the sex and love and friendship they
want. Here are the skills you need for successful
- and ethical - sluthood, from scheduling dates
to handling jealousy, finding partners to resolve
in conflict, raising children to caring for your
health. If you ever envisioned a universe beyond
traditional lifetime monogamy, this book is for
you!"
The
Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for WomenTaormino,
Tristan. Cleis Press. 1998. ISBN 1-57344-028-0.
"The first self help book on anal sex for women.
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women offers
comprehensive information on all aspects of anal
eroticism and health: for all women - heterosexual,
lesbian, bi-sexual - who want to learn how to
enjoy anal sex - with a partner or by themselves;
clear, illustrated discussion of anatomy; helpful
tips on safety, preparation, and hygiene; building
trust and communicating your desires; pleasurable
anal penetration; how to give it, how to get it;
where to find toys, accessories and safe sex supplies;
fantasy, gender bending, and power play; explicit
stories of women's real experiences with anal
eroticism; complete bibliography, index, and guide
to helpful resources - videos, books, magazines,
and websites."
Leathersex
: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious
Player Bean, Joesph. Deadalus. 1994. ISBN
1-881-943-05-4 "Everyone wants a more interesting
and fulfilling erotic life. With that in mind,
this book was written to give guidance to one
popular style of erotic play which the author
calls "Leathersex" - sexuality that may include:
SM, bondage, dominance, submission, fantasy, roleplaying,
sensual physical stimulation, and fetish, just
to name a few. The reader will find much wisdom
between these covers about this often misunderstood
form of erotic expression. If you are simple curious
of leathersex, or if you already enjoy its pleasures
but want to learn more, this book is for you."
Sex
Tips for Straight Women from a Gay ManAnderson,
Dan & Berman, Maggie Harper Collins Publishers.
1997. ISBN 0-06-039-232-0 "contains highly classified
man - pleasers as: the flying wallenda position;
the upstanding citizen; the princeton belly rub;
tinglers; backsliders; combo platters. So, if
you hunger to be the most dazzling lover on the
planet, [this book] will give you the inside track
on how to drive your man to new heights to ecstasy.
Double your pleasure, double your fun - and double
the new ways he'll find to thank you."
Sex
Tips from a DominatrixPayne, Patricia. Harper
Collins Publishers. 1999. "contains such forbidden
fruits as: tips on whips; BDSM glamour do's and
don'ts; silencing your lamb; the dope on rope;
how to get knotty; aural sex; dungeon decorum;
advanced activities."
Consensual
Sadomasochism : How to Talk About it and How to
do it SafelyPHD, Henkin, William A & C.C.S.S.E.
Holliday, Cybil Daedalus Publishing Company. 1996.
ISBN 1-881-943-12-7 "Easy to read, easy to follow,
and easy to understand, in this book by the authors:
define and demystify the unique language of consensual
sadomasochism; examine the psychological power
of erotic dominance and submission; provide a
carefully considered guide for safe SM play; explain
how SM can be an activity of intense intimacy
and sophisticated erotic theatre, as well as one
of simple sexual pleasure."
Sex
Toy Tricks : More Than 125 Ways to...
Tricks
2 : Another 125 Ways to Make Good...
The
Sexually Dominant Woman : A Workbook...
Different
Loving : The World of Sexual...
Bitch
Goddess : The Spiritual Path of...
Venus
in Furs, a Novel : Letters of...
Memoirs
of a Geisha This is not a BDSM book, but I
think it has a lot of parallels to submission.
One of the best fiction books that I have ever
read, also one of the very few. This is a wonderful
book from first to last page. Riveting. You won't
be able to stop reading it. Get lost in another
world. Learn the arts of Geisha submission. Even
though it's 428 pages, you will finish quite quickly.
Amazon.com Editorial review! Golden, Arthur. ISBN
According to Arthur Golden's absorbing first novel,
the word "geisha" does not mean "prostitute,"
as Westerners ignorantly assume--it means "artisan"
or "artist." To capture the geisha experience
in the art of fiction, Golden trained as long
and hard as any geisha who must master the arts
of music, dance, clever conversation, crafty battle
with rival beauties, and cunning seduction of
wealthy patrons. After earning degrees in Japanese
art and history from Harvard and Columbia--and
an M.A. in English--he met a man in Tokyo who
was the illegitimate offspring of a renowned businessman
and a geisha. This meeting inspired Golden to
spend 10 years researching every detail of geisha
culture, chiefly relying on the geisha Mineko
Iwasaki, who spent years charming the very rich
and famous. The result is a novel with the broad
social canvas (and love of coincidence) of Charles
Dickens and Jane Austen's intense attention to
the nuances of erotic maneuvering. Readers experience
the entire life of a geisha, from her origins
as an orphaned fishing-village girl in 1929 to
her triumphant auction of her mizuage (virginity)
for a record price as a teenager to her reminiscent
old age as the distinguished mistress of the powerful
patron of her dreams. We discover that a geisha
is more analogous to a Western "trophy wife" than
to a prostitute--and, as in Austen, flat-out prostitution
and early death is a woman's alternative to the
repressive, arcane system of courtship. In simple,
elegant prose, Golden puts us right in the tearoom
with the geisha; we are there as she gracefully
fights for her life in a social situation where
careers are made or destroyed by a witticism,
a too-revealing (or not revealing enough) glimpse
of flesh under the kimono, or a vicious rumor
spread by a rival "as cruel as a spider." Golden's
web is finely woven, but his book has a serious
flaw: the geisha's true romance rings hollow--the
love of her life is a symbol, not a character.
Her villainous geisha nemesis is sharply drawn,
but she would be more so if we got a deeper peek
into the cause of her motiveless malignity--the
plight all geisha share. Still, Golden has won
the triple crown of fiction: he has created a
plausible female protagonist in a vivid, now-vanished
world, and he gloriously captures Japanese culture
by expressing his thoughts in authentic Eastern
metaphors.
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