- THEORETICAL/PRACTICAL Beginner - is a good starting ground to gain theory and it will also lend practical advice
- PRACTICAL Intermediate to Advanced - is a good place to find assistance in specialized areas such as spanking & flogging or making your own SM tools
- INTELLECTUAL is a place to shop when you want something a little different and you are ready to expand your thoughts
- FICTION all about fiction. Sometimes realistic, sometimes fantasy.
- BOYS WHO WANT TO BE GIRLS for those male bodies that wish to be feminized, understand and/or express their feminine side.
Descriptions are listed under each book icon &/or hyperlink.
Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook
- Art of Sensual Female Dominance : A Guide for Women
- Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns :the romance and sexual sorcery of sadomasochism
- The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite possibilities
- The Bottoming Book : How to Get Terrible...
- The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
- Leathersex : A Guide for the Curious...
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- Consensual Sadomasochism : How to Talk...
- Sex Toy Tricks : More Than 125 Ways to...
- Tricks 2 : Another 125 Ways to Make Good...
- Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man
- Sex Tips from a Dominatrix
- target="_blank"Safe, Sane, Consensual and Fun
- Kinkycrafts : 99 Do-It-Yourself S/m Toys
- The Compleat Spanker
- The Klutz Book of Knots : How to Tie the...
- Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training...
- Training With Miss Abernathy : A workbook for erotic slaves and their owners
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- The Sexually Dominant Woman : A Workbook...
- Different Loving : The World of Sexual...
- Erotic Power : An Exploration of dominance and submission
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- Bitch Goddess : The Spiritual Path of...
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- Story of O
¦¦ Boys Who Want to be Girls ¦¦
Venus in Furs, a Novel : Letters of...
Emmanuelle, Bianca and Venus in Furs OR
- Memoirs of a Geisha
Miss Vera's Finishing School for Boys Who Want to be Girls
S/He : Changing Sex and Changing Clothes (Dress, Body & Culture) (not purchased yet)
The Bliss of Becoming One! : Integrating 'Feminine' Feelings into the Male Psyche Mainstreaming the Gender Community (not purchased yet)
Coping With Crossdressing
Art and Illusion: A Guide to Crossdressing, Vol. 1, Fashion & Style
Art and Illusion: A Guide to Crossdressing, Vol. 2, Fashion & Style
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Art of Sensual Female Dominance : A Guide for Women Varrin, Claudia. Carol Publishing Group, 1998. ISBN:1-55972-47-1. . "Many [players] feel that, with planning and the love of a caring partner, D&S can be a safe way to heal, change, and grow. Although each partner is strong enough to stand alone, each needs the other for the acceptance all humans crave, for validation, for someone to trust with the erotic fantasies in their secret heart. As you play at D&S, never forget that you are holding your partner's trust and fantasies in your hand, and extend around him the protective shield he needs at this time. Enjoy your time at the 'top,' but remember the one who put you there."
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns :the romance and sexual sorcery of sadomasochism Miller, Philip & Devon, Molly. Mystic Rose Books, 1995. ISBN: 0-9645960-0-8. "will tell you all about sadomasochism. We made it light-hearted and fun to read because SM is fun to do. That's why we do it. But fun is only SM's overture; for those who grasp its message, SM is sexual magic. The right blend of trust, fantasy, and sexuality creates an intensely erotic and deeply intimate stew. We take away our lovers' freedom and lead them to profound liberty. We peer into the dark together, transforming it to light. In these pages you will find clear explanations for the curious, and solid advice, safety measures and steamy suggestions for the adventurous. Also included are: over 255 photographs and illustrations; bondage, flogging, and bullwhip tutorials; designs for making your own SM equipment; an extensive, 15 page glossary; over 900 entries of SM clothing and equipment vendors, publications, computer BBSs, and organizations"
Safe, Sane, Consensual and Fun Warren, John. Diversified Services, 1995. ISBN: 1-886073-08-2. "Through 15 stories, John Warren guides the reader through realistic scenes of loving couples indulging their secret fantasies, fantasies that you may share. Using the format of erotic fiction, he shows how two lovers can unlock the hidden passions that lie within us all. No sexual athletics, complex and expensive equipment or other participants, just two people finding pleasure down a less traveled erotic path.
Erotic Power : An Exploration of dominance and submission Scott, Gini Graham, Ph.D. Citadel Press, 1992. ISBN: 0-8065-0968-6. This book is from a sociological viewpoint. "Scott explores the areas of sadomasochism and bondage and discipline as both a witness and a practitioner. In Erotic Power, she interviews mistresses, their subjects, and various group participants in D&S. Her research covers * Her personal experiences as a "mistress in training" * A survey of the top clubs * References and resources for those who desire to know more"
Kinkycrafts : 99 Do-It-Yourself S/m ToysLady Green with Easton, Jaymes.Greenery Press, 1995. ISBN: 0-9739763-7-0. "Floggers and restraints, bondage equipment and blindfolds, erotic torture implements and sensuous delights -- all designed for easy, inexpensive construction by the home handyperson! Everything from five-minute inspirations through multi-day labors of love, contributed by creatively kinky folk from around the world. Don't spend another dime on expensive toys until you've checked out these terrific ideas!"
The Bottoming Book : How to Get Terrible... Easton, Dossie & Liszt, Catherine A. by Greenery Press, 1997. ISBN: 0-890159-01-8 A book for bottoms!! This book is especially good for the novice bottom or the top who wants to understand the bottom more fully.
Story of OReage, Pauline. Ballantine Books, January 1992. ISBN: 0-345-30111-0 "In brief, Story of O relates the progressive willful debasement of a young and beautiful Parisian fashion photographer, O, who wants nothing more than to be a slave to her lover, Rene. The test is severe - sexual in method, psychological in substance.... The artistic interest here has precisely to do with the use not only of erotic materials but also erotic methods, the deliberate stimulation of the reader as a part of and means to a total, authentic literary experience." Elliot Fremont-Smith -- The New York Times
Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training ManualAbernathy, Christina. Greenery Press, 1996. ISBN: 0-9639763-9-7. This teaches you how to train your slave. Some chapter headings include: Written training assignments; Voice commands and Postures; Tools and Accouterments for Training; What to look for in a submissive; and Types of arrangements
Training With Miss Abernathy : A workbook for erotic slaves and their owners Abernathy, Christina. Greenery Press, 1998. ISBN. 1-890-159-07-7. "Fifty transformative lessons for the erotic slave... The fundamentals of everything from providing sexual pleasure to sorting laundry to planning a world wide tour with Master or Mistress. An invaluable reference guide for slave and owner alike!"
The Klutz Book of Knots : How to Tie the World's 24 Most Useful Hitches, Ties, Wraps, and KnotsCassidy, John. Klutz, 1985. ISBN: 0-932592-10-4 "When it comes to knot-tying, are you missing the boat? Don't just read this book... You are holding in your hands a fully illustrated step-by-step guide to the tying of the world's 24 most useful knots..... The Klutz Book of Knots is more than just a written guide. It's also a tool, ment to be used as well as read. Each of the board pages is specially die-cut so that the knots can be practiced directly next to their illustrations. It is, in short, a book you can really get wrapped up in"
The Compleat SpankerGreen, Lady. Greenery Press. 1996 ISBN 0-8901-59-00-X. For the person who wants to learn more about spanking. Some chapter headings include: Why do we like spanking; Warm up; Afterwards; Tips, Tricks & Fun things to try; and Combining Bondage with Spanking.
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite possibilitiesLiszt, Catherine A. & Easton, Dossie. Greenery Press. 1997 ISBN 0-890159-01-8. "At last... a comprehensive, no-holds-barred guide for anyone who dreams of having all the sex and love and friendship they want. Here are the skills you need for successful - and ethical - sluthood, from scheduling dates to handling jealousy, finding partners to resolve in conflict, raising children to caring for your health. If you ever envisioned a universe beyond traditional lifetime monogamy, this book is for you!"
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for WomenTaormino, Tristan. Cleis Press. 1998. ISBN 1-57344-028-0. "The first self help book on anal sex for women. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women offers comprehensive information on all aspects of anal eroticism and health: for all women - heterosexual, lesbian, bi-sexual - who want to learn how to enjoy anal sex - with a partner or by themselves; clear, illustrated discussion of anatomy; helpful tips on safety, preparation, and hygiene; building trust and communicating your desires; pleasurable anal penetration; how to give it, how to get it; where to find toys, accessories and safe sex supplies; fantasy, gender bending, and power play; explicit stories of women's real experiences with anal eroticism; complete bibliography, index, and guide to helpful resources - videos, books, magazines, and websites."
Leathersex : A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player Bean, Joesph. Deadalus. 1994. ISBN 1-881-943-05-4 "Everyone wants a more interesting and fulfilling erotic life. With that in mind, this book was written to give guidance to one popular style of erotic play which the author calls "Leathersex" - sexuality that may include: SM, bondage, dominance, submission, fantasy, roleplaying, sensual physical stimulation, and fetish, just to name a few. The reader will find much wisdom between these covers about this often misunderstood form of erotic expression. If you are simple curious of leathersex, or if you already enjoy its pleasures but want to learn more, this book is for you."
Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay ManAnderson, Dan & Berman, Maggie Harper Collins Publishers. 1997. ISBN 0-06-039-232-0 "contains highly classified man - pleasers as: the flying wallenda position; the upstanding citizen; the princeton belly rub; tinglers; backsliders; combo platters. So, if you hunger to be the most dazzling lover on the planet, [this book] will give you the inside track on how to drive your man to new heights to ecstasy. Double your pleasure, double your fun - and double the new ways he'll find to thank you."
Sex Tips from a DominatrixPayne, Patricia. Harper Collins Publishers. 1999. "contains such forbidden fruits as: tips on whips; BDSM glamour do's and don'ts; silencing your lamb; the dope on rope; how to get knotty; aural sex; dungeon decorum; advanced activities."
Consensual Sadomasochism : How to Talk About it and How to do it SafelyPHD, Henkin, William A & C.C.S.S.E. Holliday, Cybil Daedalus Publishing Company. 1996. ISBN 1-881-943-12-7 "Easy to read, easy to follow, and easy to understand, in this book by the authors: define and demystify the unique language of consensual sadomasochism; examine the psychological power of erotic dominance and submission; provide a carefully considered guide for safe SM play; explain how SM can be an activity of intense intimacy and sophisticated erotic theatre, as well as one of simple sexual pleasure."
Sex Toy Tricks : More Than 125 Ways to...
Tricks 2 : Another 125 Ways to Make Good...
The Sexually Dominant Woman : A Workbook...
Different Loving : The World of Sexual...
Bitch Goddess : The Spiritual Path of...
Venus in Furs, a Novel : Letters of...
Memoirs of a Geisha This is not a BDSM book, but I think it has a lot of parallels to submission. One of the best fiction books that I have ever read, also one of the very few. This is a wonderful book from first to last page. Riveting. You won't be able to stop reading it. Get lost in another world. Learn the arts of Geisha submission. Even though it's 428 pages, you will finish quite quickly. Amazon.com Editorial review! Golden, Arthur. ISBN According to Arthur Golden's absorbing first novel, the word "geisha" does not mean "prostitute," as Westerners ignorantly assume--it means "artisan" or "artist." To capture the geisha experience in the art of fiction, Golden trained as long and hard as any geisha who must master the arts of music, dance, clever conversation, crafty battle with rival beauties, and cunning seduction of wealthy patrons. After earning degrees in Japanese art and history from Harvard and Columbia--and an M.A. in English--he met a man in Tokyo who was the illegitimate offspring of a renowned businessman and a geisha. This meeting inspired Golden to spend 10 years researching every detail of geisha culture, chiefly relying on the geisha Mineko Iwasaki, who spent years charming the very rich and famous. The result is a novel with the broad social canvas (and love of coincidence) of Charles Dickens and Jane Austen's intense attention to the nuances of erotic maneuvering. Readers experience the entire life of a geisha, from her origins as an orphaned fishing-village girl in 1929 to her triumphant auction of her mizuage (virginity) for a record price as a teenager to her reminiscent old age as the distinguished mistress of the powerful patron of her dreams. We discover that a geisha is more analogous to a Western "trophy wife" than to a prostitute--and, as in Austen, flat-out prostitution and early death is a woman's alternative to the repressive, arcane system of courtship. In simple, elegant prose, Golden puts us right in the tearoom with the geisha; we are there as she gracefully fights for her life in a social situation where careers are made or destroyed by a witticism, a too-revealing (or not revealing enough) glimpse of flesh under the kimono, or a vicious rumor spread by a rival "as cruel as a spider." Golden's web is finely woven, but his book has a serious flaw: the geisha's true romance rings hollow--the love of her life is a symbol, not a character. Her villainous geisha nemesis is sharply drawn, but she would be more so if we got a deeper peek into the cause of her motiveless malignity--the plight all geisha share. Still, Golden has won the triple crown of fiction: he has created a plausible female protagonist in a vivid, now-vanished world, and he gloriously captures Japanese culture by expressing his thoughts in authentic Eastern metaphors.
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